Wow, here I’ve been writing about my ADHD and that of my son’s and I didn’t even realise we both have RSD. I’d never heard of this before and don’t know it’s prevalent amongst ADHDers. I have so many questions. I’m going to research it. Could I please interview you about ADHD on Substack?
Loved the practical clarity here—especially your focus on soothing the amygdala first before tackling shame. After your own late diagnosis, have you noticed any changes in self-compassion or boundaries over time, or does it stay an ongoing balancing act?
Hi Dr KB, I have definitely become more compassionate and accepting of my challenges and more willing to say 'ok, this is how my ADHD shows up, it's not my fault and yet I am taking responsibility to make changes that improve my wellbeing'. This response is an ongoing practice, of course, but it gets easier to do in real-time 🙏🏽
thanks Greg. We are all capable of simultaneously holding contradictory beliefs e.g. head says 'I am wise sometimes' while heart says 'nah, that's just knowledge, you haven't got any wisdom'!
Oh, I love this quote: "It’s not enough to believe something with your head—you need to believe it with your heart."
And I've started to embrace the notion of knowing and communicating your boundaries clearly - and upfront! It gives self-confidence and safety in social situations. It takes lots of self-awareness though.
Wow, here I’ve been writing about my ADHD and that of my son’s and I didn’t even realise we both have RSD. I’d never heard of this before and don’t know it’s prevalent amongst ADHDers. I have so many questions. I’m going to research it. Could I please interview you about ADHD on Substack?
Loved the practical clarity here—especially your focus on soothing the amygdala first before tackling shame. After your own late diagnosis, have you noticed any changes in self-compassion or boundaries over time, or does it stay an ongoing balancing act?
Hi Dr KB, I have definitely become more compassionate and accepting of my challenges and more willing to say 'ok, this is how my ADHD shows up, it's not my fault and yet I am taking responsibility to make changes that improve my wellbeing'. This response is an ongoing practice, of course, but it gets easier to do in real-time 🙏🏽
What a great conversation; it was definitely timely for me! It’s cool to learn there are forms of CBT that are actually ADHD friendly!
Thank you Lola 💐
thanks Greg. We are all capable of simultaneously holding contradictory beliefs e.g. head says 'I am wise sometimes' while heart says 'nah, that's just knowledge, you haven't got any wisdom'!
Oh, I love this quote: "It’s not enough to believe something with your head—you need to believe it with your heart."
And I've started to embrace the notion of knowing and communicating your boundaries clearly - and upfront! It gives self-confidence and safety in social situations. It takes lots of self-awareness though.
Thanks a lot for sharing this interview!